Monthly Archives: October 2018
Monthly Archives: October 2018
Last year, we went to have Thanksgiving dinner with relatives who were not in the toddler stage.
They did a lovely Thanksgiving experience for adults, but a terrible one for toddlers.
It was by far the longest and most stressful day of my life. I remember getting in the car at the end of the night, vowing to never do that again!
Here a few tips for surviving your Thanksgiving dinner with a toddler (or toddlers) and actually getting invited back next year.Continue reading
When you first become a stay at home mom, the transition is really hard. You go from school or working full-time, which comes with a set schedule and routine that you follow. Most often it is provided by someone else. You are told to arrive at a certain time, lunch at a certain time, end of day at a certain time. For most of our lives, schedules were provided for us and we went about our day in a structured way without having to think.
Then one day, you have a baby. You fall in love and decide to stay home with the baby. After the initial week or two of visitors and husband taking off work, everyone returns to their lives and your new life begins. For some, the initial down time is a welcome break to the hectic life they had lead before. But no matter what, there comes a moment when every stay at home mom looks around and goes, “oh my God, I am lonely, bored, sick of this house!”
So whether, you made it one day on your own or 9 months, here is a schedule that I have found works wonderfully for me, and many of the other stay at home moms I know.
5-7 am Wake up. For the type A moms, you are going to wake up closer to 5 and try to get a head start on the day. This is also for the moms that have very energetic babies. For the rest of us, make a goal of pushing this back as close to 6:30/7 am as possible. You and your kids will have a happier day.
7-8 Breakfast, bath, get dressed, brush teeth
8-9:30 Free play. Options include going for a walk, playing pretend, building with blocks or legos. This is the time, when you can get a load of laundry in or folded (notice not both), mop the kitchen, clean up breakfast, throw in dinner into the crockpot.
9:30-10 Travel to an activity. Most kid friendly events start at 10. There are some annoying ones that start at 10:30. Show up at 10 to make them aware this is annoying.
10-11/11:30. Activity. Examples: Story time, Swimming, gymnastics, art, music, mops or playdates. Most of these activities are baby friendly! If you are struggling to find things to do, play dates fill in gaps. If you are struggling to find mommy friends, activities are the perfect place to make friends for both you and your baby. See the circle. So here is the hard reality for all my introverted mammas. You have to sign up and go to something.
I remember sitting in the car outside the library with my oblivious 5 month old son, and thinking, you can do this, you can do this, you can do this. It definitely helped me bond with him, as it was us, going out into the big cold world together. Also, I am so so so glad I did. I have made some of the most amazing mom friends, who somewhere along the way, stopped being mom friends and just became friends and for a lot of them they became family.
Let me be honest, no one, is going to understand what you are going through that isn’t a mom. Not your husband, not your mom, not your pre baby friends, not your past co workers. The woman that are currently raising their babies, in America today, will understand, money problems, husband problems, fears, vax questions, and everything else that pops up. This is the most important part of your day as a new mom. Don’t hid at home.
11:30-1. Travel home, have lunch, clean up lunch and put baby or toddler down for nap.
1-3 Nap time. Go ahead and sleep mamma if you have one baby.
3-4 Wake up and have a snack
4-5 Free play
5-6 cook and eat dinner, clean up
6-7 We usually do a family walk or more free play.
7-9 Get ready for bed, read stories, talk about day and go to bed
9 – Do another load of laundry, clean the bathrooms, talk to your husband
10pm. Go to bed.
You may notice, there is no clean the house time, the reason for that is because you are constantly cleaning the house, picking up toys, throwing dishes in the dishwasher, folding laundry, wiping down the counters, swiping up crumbles. The deep clean days, those come on Sat morning, when you give the kids to your husband and iron and dust and vacuum. There are also no bathroom breaks, no down time, out side of nap time, this is the life of the stay at home mom. Once your a mom of two kids, there is no nap time anymore. So cherish your one baby life.
Finally, don’t look at this schedule all laid out and think, oh that’s easy. It is not, it is exhausting. Every day is different and every day involves a toddler who has different feelings. Eggs might be perfect on Monday but on Tuesday, you are the worst mamma for making eggs. There will be a hundred falls, a million tears in a week, there will be so much laundry you will bury your child under it. There will be so much food on the floor that you will wonder if you will ever get it cleaned correctly. There will be sick days and sick weeks. But there is also hugs after the tears, a thousand memories made, stories you will forever cherish and a bond that is incredible. Hang in there you will be great Mamma and remember you made the right choice!
The Golden Hour is widely popular and known now.
But, as a new mom, you may be wondering what it is and what it is not.
Your midwife or doctor will tell you how beautiful it is. The books will tell you how important it is.
I am going to tell you the truth. Continue reading
As stay-at-home moms, we know how much work Thanksgiving dinner is if we don’t go and crash someone else’s house.
Beyond the cleaning, the setting of the table, you have the hours and hours of cooking followed by the insane clean up.
Throw a couple kids in the mix, in laws, cousins and aunts and uncles. It is enough to drive a young mom mad!
All the chocolate.
Yes, I said it.
Moms want all the chocolate in a large bubble bath without gaining an ounce of weight.
Okay I am kidding (a little bit).
Seriously, though, chances are you are here because you love your mom/wife and want to give her something special.
I am going to be completely honest and not sell you a darn thing.
Here are 5 things Mom really wants for Christmas.Continue reading
What is Christmas to you?
Here’s how most people see it:
Christmas has been boiled down to what I want, what I got and what I missed out on getting.
That’s a problem.
For those of us that want to break this thought process, here are some ideas to start your own Christmas traditions this year without gifts.Continue reading
As a nursing mom with some experience, I have gotten started two different times.
These are the must haves for breastfeeding:
You need a great nipple cream. You don’t need a gallon of it but you will need more than what the hospial provides.
Lansinoh Cream is not magic, but Motherlove Nipple Cream is. Buy that.